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Brash
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 Posted: 08/22/04 - 22:35 Post subject: would you want to know if your girl was cheating on you ?
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atarom and i have talked this over meny meny times but that thread brought it up again so here is the question.
If your girl/guy cheated on you but there was someway you knew forsure that it would never happen again and noone would ever find out would you want to know. now i am not talking about some random two week relationship. I am talking about the love of your life , someone you will prolly spend the rest of your life with and life happly ever after with.
personaly id rather never know and just live my life happly ever after. ignorance is bliss.
reason this came up between us is his roomate (danny, LOL) cheated on his girl and for months it drove him nuts . atarom always told him to tell her so he could feel better . I asked him if he would do it again . he swore to god it would never happen again. said there was absolutely NO chance of it ever happening again because he loves her so much ..... so i told him if that was true then he if he tells her it is not to do her a favior it is to relieve himself of his guilt. would be incredibly selfish of him to hurt her like that only to relieve himself of his guilt. BUT if he thinks there is even a small chance he will do it again he should either tell her and deal with it or dump her for some better reason and save her the trama because she is 90% going to dump you anyways when she finds out .
what yas think ? would you want to know no matter what anyways ? and if yes , why?
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Buntz
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 22:39 Post subject:
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ignorance isn't bliss =p
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Xilanl
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 22:41 Post subject:
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Yes, while thats a extremely hard person for somebody to find out, probably one of the hardest things because you just question yourself, living without knowing is so much worse I think. Thats something pretty damn serious and the other person really cares they shouldn't be able to live with that kinda guilt. Its something that you wouldn't be able to hid all your life and to have it come down the road many years later would only make it that much harder to know everything that you had until then had been awkward.
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Wulfheart
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 22:44 Post subject:
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oh i am sure he felt bad for MONTHS that he was f*****g another girl behind his girlfriend's back....so bad that he kept DOING IT!
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Vengar_OO
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 22:48 Post subject: -==-
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As bad as breaking up a good relationship is, I think if you were on the recieving end of the bad news, you would much rather want to know, than not know.
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Ikkan
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 23:05 Post subject:
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I would want to know. I might not break up with them, but I would want to know.
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atarom
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 23:10 Post subject:
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Here's my logic, and brash always tells me i'm an idealistic noob, but i think that's the way things should work.
The only way any relationship is going to succeed is through open lines of communication.
The person you spend the rest of your life with should be able to tell you anything, and you should be able to understand. And that goes both ways.
If you did something and you feel guilty about it, you should be able to talk to them about it, discuss the feelings you have, why you think you feel them, what it means, what might possibly be missing from your relationship, etc, so that the problem is resolved.
I dont believe that the situation exists where one person could cheat on another and have it NEVER happen again, no matter how many times they swear to god, or on their mother's grave.
When/if I get married, it will be to someone that i tell everything to, and who tells everything to me. There is a bond formed by that sort of trust and intimacy that cannot be equalled.
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Zab
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 23:12 Post subject:
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| Quote: | | ignorance is bliss |
Until you come down with herpes because she is sleeping with more than just one guy.
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Ikkan
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 23:13 Post subject:
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| Zab wrote: | | Quote: | | ignorance is bliss |
Until you come down with herpes because she is sleeping with more than just one guy. |
Herpes is the 'in' thing man, didn't you get the memo?
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Wulfheart
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 23:17 Post subject:
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| Ikkan wrote: | | Zab wrote: | | Quote: | | ignorance is bliss |
Until you come down with herpes because she is sleeping with more than just one guy. |
Herpes is the 'in' thing man, didn't you get the memo? |
nope becuase it didnt have a TPS cover sheet...
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Zab
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 23:19 Post subject:
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| Ikkan wrote: | | Zab wrote: | | Quote: | | ignorance is bliss |
Until you come down with herpes because she is sleeping with more than just one guy. |
Herpes is the 'in' thing man, didn't you get the memo? |
Ill pass thanks. you can have all the herpes coming to me ikkan!
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Nobonius
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 23:20 Post subject:
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Its the gift that keeps on giving.
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Aluaeia
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 23:38 Post subject:
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I'd want to know if she was so that I could try to get a threesome going.
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Tiluvas
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 23:40 Post subject:
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If I pay the two teenagers down the street to beat me up and then f**k my girlfriend, is it considered cheating?
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Desaitar
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 23:41 Post subject:
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yep, id want to know. id be torn to pieces for a while, but in the end it would have been the right thing to move on.
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Barnacle Bob
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 23:43 Post subject:
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Hi Tiluvas, I think that the Bob Saget picture works well for you.
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atarom
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 23:53 Post subject:
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| Barnacle Bob wrote: | | Hi Tiluvas, I think that the Bob Saget picture works well for you. |
I thought the same thing.
it scares me.
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LerraLove
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Posted: 08/22/04 - 23:57 Post subject:
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I'de like to know if a BF of mine was cheating on me so that the next time we engaged in **** activities I would bite his f*****g d**k off.
Ok so I'm not that mean, but I'de still want to know.
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Xion
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Posted: 08/23/04 - 00:30 Post subject:
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I'd tell her to relive myself of the guilt. I'm sure if I cheated on the love of my life there would have been extenuating circumstances such as being incredibly drunk and not having seen your lady in awhile, etc. If she really was the love of your life, she'd obviously be p****d, but she'd hopefully get over it since you were at least honest enough to tell her.
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themy
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Posted: 08/23/04 - 01:14 Post subject:
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i wouldn't want to know personally if for sure it would never happen again.
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Brash
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Posted: 08/23/04 - 01:30 Post subject:
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| atarom wrote: | Here's my logic, and brash always tells me i'm an idealistic noob, but i think that's the way things should work.
The only way any relationship is going to succeed is through open lines of communication.
The person you spend the rest of your life with should be able to tell you anything, and you should be able to understand. And that goes both ways.
If you did something and you feel guilty about it, you should be able to talk to them about it, discuss the feelings you have, why you think you feel them, what it means, what might possibly be missing from your relationship, etc, so that the problem is resolved.
I dont believe that the situation exists where one person could cheat on another and have it NEVER happen again, no matter how many times they swear to god, or on their mother's grave.
When/if I get married, it will be to someone that i tell everything to, and who tells everything to me. There is a bond formed by that sort of trust and intimacy that cannot be equalled. |
dan didn't want to tell her for any of these reasons . he just wanted to relieve himself by telling her
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atarom
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Posted: 08/23/04 - 02:53 Post subject:
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| Brash wrote: | | atarom wrote: | Here's my logic, and brash always tells me i'm an idealistic noob, but i think that's the way things should work.
The only way any relationship is going to succeed is through open lines of communication.
The person you spend the rest of your life with should be able to tell you anything, and you should be able to understand. And that goes both ways.
If you did something and you feel guilty about it, you should be able to talk to them about it, discuss the feelings you have, why you think you feel them, what it means, what might possibly be missing from your relationship, etc, so that the problem is resolved.
I dont believe that the situation exists where one person could cheat on another and have it NEVER happen again, no matter how many times they swear to god, or on their mother's grave.
When/if I get married, it will be to someone that i tell everything to, and who tells everything to me. There is a bond formed by that sort of trust and intimacy that cannot be equalled. |
dan didn't want to tell her for any of these reasons . he just wanted to relieve himself by telling her |
yeah, which is a false sentiment. if you're doing it for yourself, then you have things to reevaluate about your relationship i think.
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Celestra
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Posted: 08/23/04 - 03:25 Post subject:
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I'd want to know.
And I'd leave.
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khrath
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Posted: 08/23/04 - 03:27 Post subject:
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I'd want to know only if it was going to be an ongoing thing, something that would impact our relationship.
If it was just a 1 night stand, sew your wild oats type thing, i could live without ever knowing.
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Desaitar
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Posted: 08/23/04 - 03:34 Post subject:
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i just couldnt look at her the same way, it would make me sick i was ever with her to be honest.
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Mugaaz
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Posted: 08/23/04 - 03:36 Post subject:
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Pretty much what Khrath said. Only shit I would care about if VD or kids. I aint raising some dudes kid. Sides that she can f**k her dad as long as I never ever f*****g know about it.
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ataorm
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Posted: 08/23/04 - 08:11 Post subject:
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| Celestra wrote: | I'd want to know.
And I'd leave. |
I would never cheat on you.
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khrath
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Posted: 08/23/04 - 08:16 Post subject:
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| ataorm wrote: | | Celestra wrote: | I'd want to know.
And I'd leave. |
I would never cheat on you. |
Me eiither, but i'd cheat on my g/f with cele tho, man!
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Celestra
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Posted: 08/23/04 - 08:19 Post subject:
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| ataorm wrote: | | Celestra wrote: | I'd want to know.
And I'd leave. |
I would never cheat on you. |
Dude, now that I saw that pic of you fingerbanging yourself I know I wouldn't cheat on you either! Ur hawt. <3
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Maelstrom
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Posted: 08/23/04 - 09:11 Post subject:
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If you fogive or not it's your choice...but God damn if you say : okay I fogive...but always bring it back on the table or always feel suspicious toward your love now thats not a good thing.
Cheating can mean 2 things : 1- he or she does not care about you and will do it every time possible. 2- your couple have a problem and this is the proff so try to solve it or break up but do something.
But 1 thing for sure...accident never happen without a reason...if you cheat , you cheat don't try to find every possible reason in the world like..I was drunk , or sad, or she jumped on me and before I knew my manhood was already inside her!
Just admit it : She had such a nice ass I just couldnt resist, and since I see your ass everyday it gets boring!
Now thats honest.
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