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DrevanMI
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 Posted: 04/19/04 - 02:17 Post subject: seeking "advice" from ppl that can read ppl well =
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Situation: this "thing" I have for someone that I was hanging out with last nite alone and drinking!
What I want to know: said someone acts totally different when we are with a grp of friends and when we just hang out and drink or whatever. They seem very quite and a good listener when they are around a crowd of friends, but when we were hanging alone drinking, there was playful verbal teasing and constant smiling. Now, I want to be like hey, lets make whoopi and shit, but I don't wanna end up knocking on a door with no one home if ya know what I mean. (Don't wanna ruin a friendship if thats all it is.)
Now, aside from the flaming and the "just kill yerself" comments, what kinda things could one do to get closer to an answer? I could spend the rest of my life with this person just based on how much we hit it off when we met and how we both live life, not exactly the same way, but very close.
Yea, RP shouldn't be on the list for asking LTR advice, but am just curious on how other ppl would deal with this situation if it were to ever occur. I will heed whatever is stated, but will never take it as fact! hehe
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Confused
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Posted: 04/19/04 - 02:20 Post subject:
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just kill yourself
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Booker
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Location: Corvallis, Oregon
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Posted: 04/19/04 - 02:24 Post subject:
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ask frank the bunny, he knows
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Overon
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Posted: 04/19/04 - 02:27 Post subject:
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Frank, why are you wearing that silly bunny suit?
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Xion
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Location: Los Angeles, CA
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Posted: 04/19/04 - 02:38 Post subject:
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cheesy online dating guide, but this works:
If I've been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she's ready to be kissed, I'll reach over and touch her hair while we're talking and make a comment about it. I'll say "Your hair looks so soft" and just touch the tips of it.
If she smiles and likes this, I'll reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time I also glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times. If she lets me keep touching her hair, I know that she's ready to be kissed.
Obviously a bit corny, but the idea behind it is solid. Just try little things that could be construed as an advance, but is also easy to deny as nothing more than being a bit flirtatious or even just nice.
If she has any feelings for you, she'll consture things like this as advances. If not, she'll think it's nothing.
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Mugaaz
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Posted: 04/19/04 - 03:04 Post subject: Re: seeking "advice" from ppl that can read ppl we
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| DrevanMI wrote: | . Now, I want to be like hey, lets make whoopi and shit, but I don't wanna end up knocking on a door with no one home if ya know what I mean. (Don't wanna ruin a friendship if thats all it is.)
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Look everyone hates rejection. It sucks for everyone but it becomes easier to shrug off. Don't worry about this "friends" thing. Your not hard up for friends, you want her as a lover. Asking her out isn't going to "ruin" anything except destroy "hope angst". Don't sit around wondering, just go find out. If she says no she says no. Next time you meet her, small talk for 2-3 mins max. Then just say,
"It was nice meeting you again So&So. What's your home phone numer?"
No explanation, not "becuase i want to go out some time". Just ask straight forward and say NOTHING afterwards even if there is dead silence for 30 seconds. She'll either have 1 of a million excuses/questions, or she will spit out 7 digits. If she tells you her number, the sooner she replied means the more interested she is. If she says anything else grin and chalk it up to learning. If she counters with asking for your number, say only if I can have yours. If she doesn't give it then - forget it and say "It was nice talking to you, have a good night".
Wait 5-10 days and then call her and just introduce your first name and immediately set up a date for the following evening which should be on a weekday. "Hey how are you doing? This is ****, Let's go out Thursday for Mexican Food and dancing. I'll pick you up at seven. What's your address?." After she gives it to you, say "Nice talking to you, I'll see you then. Have a good night." DON"T talk on the phone for 30mins, that is what the date is FOR.
You show confidence by assuming she will say yes. If that makes you nervous your not sure of her interest level, which you should be if you keep your mouth shut after asking for her number.
Final note. Again don't worry about "remaining friends" I guarantee as long as you are not creepy or a bully then asking her out doesn't "Jeapordize" anything except your ego. No one has anything but respect and admiration for a confident man who can act like a gentleman.
There is nothing to be ashamed of in wanted to see her romantically. Don't worry about it. Just do it. You CAN DO IT. If you have trouble doin it , have a friend psych you up.
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Confused
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Posted: 04/19/04 - 03:14 Post subject:
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Look. This is all very simple. The next time you two are hanging out and you're standing next to her, do the following:
1. Grab each side of her waist with your hands.
2. Violently and repeatedly thrust said clothed waist into your own.
3. While doing this, repeat to her, "You know you want this, b***h. Yeah. Take it cause I know you want it. Come on b***h. Take it. Yeah."
After about 9-10 minutes of this, she will be yours.
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ashwynd
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Joined: 26 Aug 2003
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Posted: 04/19/04 - 03:15 Post subject:
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| Xion wrote: | cheesy online dating guide, but this works:
If I've been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she's ready to be kissed, I'll reach over and touch her hair while we're talking and make a comment about it. I'll say "Your hair looks so soft" and just touch the tips of it.
If she smiles and likes this, I'll reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time I also glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times. If she lets me keep touching her hair, I know that she's ready to be kissed.
Obviously a bit corny, but the idea behind it is solid. Just try little things that could be construed as an advance, but is also easy to deny as nothing more than being a bit flirtatious or even just nice.
If she has any feelings for you, she'll consture things like this as advances. If not, she'll think it's nothing. |
Drinking tends to let our inhibitions roam out in the open. In many situations, at least in my opinion, if a girl is your friend and into you, she won't be very flirtatious around your other friends unless she wants to seriously have a relationship with you. The flirting in private things tends to seem more like "fling" type behavior.
Edit: didn't realize you barely know the girl, if so then ya go for it. Rejection is a b***h, but it's bound to happen sometime. Sorry Ryan, just had to laugh at the hair comment. The denial thing is sound advice for sure though.
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Nuldaan
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Joined: 07 Nov 2002
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Posted: 04/19/04 - 04:11 Post subject:
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| Confused wrote: | Look. This is all very simple. The next time you two are hanging out and you're standing next to her, do the following:
1. Grab each side of her waist with your hands.
2. Violently and repeatedly thrust said clothed waist into your own.
3. While doing this, repeat to her, "You know you want this, b***h. Yeah. Take it cause I know you want it. Come on b***h. Take it. Yeah."
After about 9-10 minutes of this, she will be yours. |
hahaha. When did Phoenix get a sense of humor? Must be the name change...
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Confused
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Posted: 04/19/04 - 04:12 Post subject:
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| Nuldaan wrote: | | Confused wrote: | Look. This is all very simple. The next time you two are hanging out and you're standing next to her, do the following:
1. Grab each side of her waist with your hands.
2. Violently and repeatedly thrust said clothed waist into your own.
3. While doing this, repeat to her, "You know you want this, b***h. Yeah. Take it cause I know you want it. Come on b***h. Take it. Yeah."
After about 9-10 minutes of this, she will be yours. |
hahaha. When did Phoenix get a sense of humor? Must be the name change... |
Sense of humor?
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