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gotissues68
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 Posted: 04/03/05 - 01:51 Post subject: ok someone decipher chick for me
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Alright I hate to admit this on realpoor but oh well f**k it. I went out on my first date in about 7 years tonight. Met a girl through a dating service. I think things went pretty well but only having one night stands and a failed engagement to look back on for reference I'm not sure if she was into me. She did say lets keep in touch and she laughed at my dumb jokes and smiled alot... I take these are good things or no?
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Aeain
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 02:00 Post subject:
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She wants your c**k.
Seriously, Who understands women?
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pyrgomache
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 02:03 Post subject:
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| Aeain wrote: | She wants your c**k.
Seriously, Who understands women? |
other women.
and dr. phil.
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Isriam
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 02:06 Post subject:
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did you make plans for a 2nd date or atleast tell her you want to take her out again soon? gotta be straight forward with these women, they cant read your mind either.
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gotissues68
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Joined: 21 Aug 2003
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 02:15 Post subject:
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| Isriam wrote: | | did you make plans for a 2nd date or atleast tell her you want to take her out again soon? gotta be straight forward with these women, they cant read your mind either. |
I didn't  but I'm going to catch her via email which is the way we started out and then she said lets go get beers. But I don't want to do it right now and seem like a fanboi heh which I'm not. She let me walk her to the corner where she was parked but not to her car though, I can understand that though with crazy psycho stalkers and such but just trying to gauger whether she was like "f**k him I hope this ends quick" or "hey he's nice I'll eventually have his c**k between my lips"  kidding of course..
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Paden
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Location: North CAROLINA!
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 02:39 Post subject:
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all this time I thought you were some kind of pimp
*sniffle*
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gotissues68
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 02:40 Post subject:
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| Paden wrote: | all this time I thought you were some kind of pimp
*sniffle* |
Well if you count banging random chicks a pimp, then yes I could be considered a pimp, if you count having meaningful yet fruitless relationships then no I haven't been a pimp in ages 
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Mugaaz
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 03:10 Post subject:
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| gotissues68 wrote: | | Isriam wrote: | | did you make plans for a 2nd date or atleast tell her you want to take her out again soon? gotta be straight forward with these women, they cant read your mind either. |
I didn't but I'm going to catch her via email which is the way we started out and then she said lets go get beers. But I don't want to do it right now and seem like a fanboi heh which I'm not. She let me walk her to the corner where she was parked but not to her car though, I can understand that though with crazy psycho stalkers and such but just trying to gauger whether she was like "f**k him I hope this ends quick" or "hey he's nice I'll eventually have his c**k between my lips" kidding of course.. |
For the love of all don't plan your 2nd date during the first one. That's up there with proposing on the first date.
Give her a call in 4-7 days. When she picks up say this is X.
She'll either be excited and start beaming on the phone.
Or She'll say "Who?....Oh....Hey X"
If it's the first plan the 2nd date. If it's the second say the door is ringing and lose the number.
Pretend it's poker, no one is going to tell you what cards they're holding. But the right question cuts through all b******t.
You're new to dating again. Don't focus on any specific girl. If you're using an internet service there is no reason why you shouldn't have a date with another girl before you call the original again. Doing so will remove any stink of desperation you may have, you'll finally be able to be yourself and stop second guessing yourself all the time.
Trust me, Trust Khrath, Trust every guy who can testify. The worst possible thing is not being turned down. It's going out with a girl, or marrying a girl, that never liked you in the first place.
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Tamrissa
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 03:14 Post subject:
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The following is a comprehensive federal study, approved by the Attorney General:
Everything Men Know About Women
End of Report
U.S. Attorney General's Office
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Callaren
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Joined: 03 Dec 2003
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Location: South Jersey
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 03:17 Post subject:
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You're not wealthy are you? She might be into the green if ya know what I mean (and if she laughs at that there's something wrong with her). If you do get to go out with her again then let us know more about her to we can see what kind of person she is and maybe get some past relationship info from her. And pay attention to the small things she does, like looking away and her reactions to things you say. If you do want to continue dating her, then just take it slow.
PS: I tend to look at people psychologically (behaviors, actions, speech, etc.) just so you know where I'm coming from.
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Someone
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 03:20 Post subject:
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You are a pornstar and you are holding auditions for your next movie in a men's room bathroom stall.
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Mugaaz
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 03:20 Post subject:
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| Callaren wrote: | You're not wealthy are you? She might be into the green if ya know what I mean (and if she laughs at that there's something wrong with her). If you do get to go out with her again then let us know more about her to we can see what kind of person she is and maybe get some past relationship info from her. And pay attention to the small things she does, like looking away and her reactions to things you say. If you do want to continue dating her, then just take it slow.
PS: I tend to look at people psychologically (behaviors, actions, speech, etc.) just so you know where I'm coming from. |
As opposed to how the dress?
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Spiritz
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 03:25 Post subject:
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Let's keep in touch = let's be friends = you ain't gettin no poon.
Call me, can I call you, what's your number, wanna come in, eat my p***y = good job.
I'd say loose the number. Let her come to you, if she's interested.
Women want what they can't have. Make yourself unavailable.
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gotissues68
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Joined: 21 Aug 2003
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 03:30 Post subject:
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| Callaren wrote: | You're not wealthy are you? She might be into the green if ya know what I mean (and if she laughs at that there's something wrong with her). If you do get to go out with her again then let us know more about her to we can see what kind of person she is and maybe get some past relationship info from her. And pay attention to the small things she does, like looking away and her reactions to things you say. If you do want to continue dating her, then just take it slow.
PS: I tend to look at people psychologically (behaviors, actions, speech, etc.) just so you know where I'm coming from. |
Well thats whats scary. I listened to what she had to say and I did it because I wanted to of course but I certainly was trying to pay attention to her body language and such as well. She's a teacher, from the midwest, divorced parents. Don't know much about past relationships yet because well thats just not a first date question. She did share her beer with me and I shared mine with her since neither of us had tried each others before so that was kinda interesting 
Now I'm certainly not desperate and now that I've got that "holy shit I haven't dated in 7 years" over with I think it'll be much easier. I think she' s nice and we have alot in common so we'll see if a second date happens. I'm certainly not going to cry in my sheets if it doesn't but I did get some good vibes off of her
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Mugaaz
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 03:33 Post subject:
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| Spiritz wrote: | Let's keep in touch = let's be friends = you ain't gettin no poon.
Call me, can I call you, what's your number, wanna come in, eat my p***y = good job.
I'd say loose the number. Let her come to you, if she's interested.
Women want what they can't have. Make yourself unavailable. |
Yes.
P.S. Easy to to test for gold digging is take her to play mini golf, free concert, etc. If she asks about this, she went on the date becuase she didnt have the money to eat out by herself.
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gotissues68
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 03:35 Post subject:
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| Mugaaz wrote: | | Spiritz wrote: | Let's keep in touch = let's be friends = you ain't gettin no poon.
Call me, can I call you, what's your number, wanna come in, eat my p***y = good job.
I'd say loose the number. Let her come to you, if she's interested.
Women want what they can't have. Make yourself unavailable. |
Yes.
P.S. Easy to to test for gold digging is take her to play mini golf, free concert, etc. If she asks about this, she went on the date becuase she didnt have the money to eat out by herself. |
I'll lose the number. By the way we already have each others phone numbers so she didn't have to ask 
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Desaitar
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 04:14 Post subject:
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| Spiritz wrote: | Let's keep in touch = let's be friends = you ain't gettin no poon.
Call me, can I call you, what's your number, wanna come in, eat my p***y = good job.
I'd say loose the number. Let her come to you, if she's interested.
Women want what they can't have. Make yourself unavailable. |
best post so far
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Spiritz
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Location: Huntington Beach, CA
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 04:47 Post subject:
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| gotissues68 wrote: | | I'll lose the number. By the way we already have each others phone numbers so she didn't have to ask |
Whatever, was just using it as an example. It royally sucks, but dating/wooing women is a game. I used to fool myself into thinking I could meet a chick that was on the same level as me and not have to play games. I was wrong.
It's all mental. Make yourself unavailable. Don't give a f**k (or at least act like it). Better yet, go on another date, and make sure she finds out about it.
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Eindar
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 04:58 Post subject:
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I'd like to get Lauren's opinion on this
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principessa
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 08:36 Post subject:
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Just going by exactly what you said, I'd say she remained non-committal without being offensive...there isn't anything in what she said to hold onto--nor is there anything to indicate an outright "get lost" either...
You're gonna have to "keep in touch" at least once to better gauge where things are.
How did YOU feel when it was over? Doesn't sound like the thunderbolt hit ya...
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Frostkiss
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 12:30 Post subject:
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Let's stay in touch isn't what you want to hear =/
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Yellow Journalist
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 12:53 Post subject:
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I wouldnt waste my time with her.
Think of your best friend.
Your best friend or buddy or pal genuinely cares about you.
Does she?
Your best friend would go do something with you on the spur of the moment.
Would she?
Your best friend is willing to lend an ear or go the extra mile for you. Help you sort through your thoughts.
Would she?
Your best friend and you enjoy being around each other.
You can speak for yourself on that but does she seem like she enjoys being around you?
In my experiences with women even with friends I can usually tell if I'll know this person for a day or throughout my life. Thats something you need to find out.
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Isriam
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 13:41 Post subject:
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i didnt tell him to hound her about a 2nd date. but if you walk a girl to her car, shit just say would you like to go out again some time? girls are complicated creatures, and having the balls to ask up front isnt a bad thing. i also think she gave him the get lost loser lines, but hell no one here was there, and he doesnt even know what she meant.
also consider that women like a man who shows interest. you have to look back on how you acted and if you even acted like you enjoyed her company. if she felt like you'd rather be somewhere else, of course she's not going to put herself out on the line by asking you on another date.
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Callaren
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 14:00 Post subject:
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| Mugaaz wrote: | | Callaren wrote: | You're not wealthy are you? She might be into the green if ya know what I mean (and if she laughs at that there's something wrong with her). If you do get to go out with her again then let us know more about her to we can see what kind of person she is and maybe get some past relationship info from her. And pay attention to the small things she does, like looking away and her reactions to things you say. If you do want to continue dating her, then just take it slow.
PS: I tend to look at people psychologically (behaviors, actions, speech, etc.) just so you know where I'm coming from. |
As opposed to how the dress? |
Not everyone's a fashion queen. I usually don't take clothing too serious.
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gotissues68
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 15:51 Post subject:
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We'll see what happens. We were walking out of the bar together and she stopped me and to have me look at a Spanish movie thing going on at a local college since our conversation it came out that we both speak spanish so yea who knows =)
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Akronn
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Posted: 04/03/05 - 16:05 Post subject:
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'Let's stay in touch" isn't exactly a ringing endorsement.
If you dug her, I wouldn't wait a week to call her again, though. Call her by the middle of the week and ask how things are going and try to make future plans. You'll know right then and there if it's worth pursuing.
By the way, in my experience (which in online dating is considerabe... I whored myself out pretty good a few years ago ) you really want the girl to ask about your availbility for future dates on your first date. You're golden then, so try to make that happen on date #1!
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shinja mayoke
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Posted: 04/04/05 - 15:38 Post subject:
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Just remeber to j******f, twice, before calling her or going out on another date.
In fact I recommend j*********f twice even if you dont.
Go do it now.
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ashwynd
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Posted: 04/04/05 - 15:48 Post subject:
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| Spiritz wrote: | Let's keep in touch = let's be friends = you ain't gettin no poon.
Call me, can I call you, what's your number, wanna come in, eat my p***y = good job.
I'd say loose the number. Let her come to you, if she's interested.
Women want what they can't have. Make yourself unavailable. |
So true my friend. Honestly, this is the best advice here. It works wonders. Mugaaz, 4-7 days = she will find someone else. Haven't you seen Swingers? 3 days is perfect.
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Vekril
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Posted: 04/04/05 - 15:53 Post subject:
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you cannot read too much into a first date, and guys on the internet sure cannot give you 100% solid advice about whether she likes you based on the limited amount of info you shared
safest advice - wait 3-4 days, give her a call and see if she wants to go out again
best scenario = you go on another date, possibly many more
worst case = you waste a few minutes on the phone and get told no
so what do you have to lose?
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Tiluvas
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Posted: 04/04/05 - 16:10 Post subject:
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The biggest problem, with your lack of experience, is going to be that you are going to over analyze every little thing she said or did. You're going to think about the fact that you two drank out of the same bottle, so she was obviously into you. Or that she said we should keep in touch, so she was obviously into you. DON'T THINK THIS WAY.
Just don't over analyze, and for god's sake, don't set up your next date over e-mail. If you have her phone number, call her up tomorrow or wednesday. Just do what Mugazz said, call her up and see how she responds when you mention who you are. Ask if she is interested in doing anything this weekend, and see what she says.
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