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Nahualli
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 Posted: 08/04/04 - 13:40 Post subject: Well, it's everyone's turn to laugh at me
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I'm officially single now, just ended an 8.5 year relationship.
Take a potshot at me if you want to, I don't *quite* feel s****y enough about my life atm, negativity is like money, you can never have too much of it.
-Nah-
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sinrakin
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 13:43 Post subject:
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Sorry man, that sucks, 8 years is a long time.
It always turns around though, and you'll get to do all those new relationship things again 
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kemble
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 13:43 Post subject:
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Dude, now you are free to go to the San Francisco Jacks. No poppers allowed tho. 
Seriously tho, what caused it?
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Nahualli
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 13:44 Post subject:
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| kemble wrote: | Dude, now you are free to go to the San Francisco Jacks. No poppers allowed tho.
Seriously tho, what caused it? |
You ready for this?
Family.
I want one, he doesn't. It's about as simple as it can be but there's absolutely no room to compromise on it.
-Nah-
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Tamena
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 13:46 Post subject:
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*hugs*
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Frostkiss
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 13:50 Post subject:
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| Nahualli wrote: | | kemble wrote: | Dude, now you are free to go to the San Francisco Jacks. No poppers allowed tho.
Seriously tho, what caused it? |
You ready for this?
Family.
I want one, he doesn't. It's about as simple as it can be but there's absolutely no room to compromise on it.
-Jesus!- |
That sucks. People tend to forget it's an important issue to talk about while you're still in your 20's. Many of my friends who are in a commited relationship say it's not an issue "right now". At one point it will though, and like you said, there's no room to compromise. It's a life choice =(
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sinrakin
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 13:56 Post subject:
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| Frostkiss wrote: | | Nahualli wrote: | | kemble wrote: | Dude, now you are free to go to the San Francisco Jacks. No poppers allowed tho.
Seriously tho, what caused it? |
You ready for this?
Family.
I want one, he doesn't. It's about as simple as it can be but there's absolutely no room to compromise on it.
-Jesus!- |
That sucks. People tend to forget it's an important issue to talk about while you're still in your 20's. Many of my friends who are in a commited relationship say it's not an issue "right now". At one point it will though, and like you said, there's no room to compromise. It's a life choice =( |
That's one of the reasons my ex-wife and I split up. Not the only one, but maybe the big one. I remember when we were just getting to know each other, she asked if I wanted kids, and I said something like I could go either way, if it happened it happened, and if it didn't it didn't. But realistically, deep down I wanted a family, just not at that time. She really didn't, and thought I was saying it would be ok not to have one. My bad for not thinking about the question more deeply.
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Celestra
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 13:57 Post subject:
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Tough decision.
I would try and say something comforting but somehow those things always sound inadequate. If you feel like talking sometime though, you can always come distract me from my writings
Chin up hon.
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Nahualli
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:00 Post subject:
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You know.. this is one of those things that p****d me off.... we actually broke up a couple of weeks ago, on the eve of buying this house. Well he's moving to this new house but to him the house was not contingent on a family or anything, it was just a house. Well if Im gonna buy a house Ill be damned if I don't plan on eventually filling it with kids. Well he didnt see it this way but he compares it to being a "cat person", he claims he doesn't like cats but he "could get used to them"
Well.. shit last I checked kids .. especially for a gay couple, aren't exactly something that "just happens".. I can't wait for him to warm up to the idea or get used to it, it doesn't work that way.
He blames me for terminating the relationship and he blames me for "not understanding him" whatever that means. I accept that responsibility.
Anytime the subject of kids came up, he would never point out ANYTHING but the negative aspects of it. The costs, the time, the sacrifices, the responsibility. Then he would smugly add in the fact that he is too selfish to devote himself to anyone else but himself and his partner.
It was basically a choice, for me to try and be happy on my own or to resign to never feeling happy, never fulfilling the only thing that would make me feel complete as a person.
-Nah-
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Celestra
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:03 Post subject:
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Doesn't look like understanding is the problem. You seem to understand quite well that he doesn't want a family and you do.
Opposing life goals are a bit hard to reconcile when you're supposed to be living together.
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Nictathan
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:11 Post subject:
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Cel's pretty much nailed it on the head there N-a-h...
Sucks that it happened though man, really f*****g hurts to dedicate yourself to one person and then have it all change like that.
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:19 Post subject:
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You where<---word usage mistake for all you dweebs (correct word is were)with a man.
You do know that is wrong, don't you?
edit: some think its a spelling mistake, that is debatable.
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atarom
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:21 Post subject:
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| Kbarr wrote: | You where with a man.
You do know that is wrong, don't you? |
apparently one wants kids and the other one doesnt.
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Silvermouse
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:22 Post subject:
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| Nahualli wrote: | You know.. this is one of those things that p****d me off.... we actually broke up a couple of weeks ago, on the eve of buying this house. Well he's moving to this new house but to him the house was not contingent on a family or anything, it was just a house. Well if Im gonna buy a house Ill be damned if I don't plan on eventually filling it with kids. Well he didnt see it this way but he compares it to being a "cat person", he claims he doesn't like cats but he "could get used to them"
Well.. shit last I checked kids .. especially for a gay couple, aren't exactly something that "just happens".. I can't wait for him to warm up to the idea or get used to it, it doesn't work that way.
He blames me for terminating the relationship and he blames me for "not understanding him" whatever that means. I accept that responsibility.
Anytime the subject of kids came up, he would never point out ANYTHING but the negative aspects of it. The costs, the time, the sacrifices, the responsibility. Then he would smugly add in the fact that he is too selfish to devote himself to anyone else but himself and his partner.
It was basically a choice, for me to try and be happy on my own or to resign to never feeling happy, never fulfilling the only thing that would make me feel complete as a person.
-Jesus!- |
Sounds like he liked being with you, but the prospect of making a firm commitment (house, kids, etc.) scared him. It is a scary idea, but hey.
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atarom
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:22 Post subject:
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| Kbarr wrote: | You where with a man.
You do know that is wrong, don't you? |
also:
there's a "h" in where....
you do know that is wrong, don't you?
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themy
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:22 Post subject:
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| Kbarr wrote: | You where with a man.
You do know that is wrong, don't you? |
not even close to how wrong your spelling is sgt. retardo
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atarom
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:23 Post subject:
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| themy wrote: | | Kbarr wrote: | You where with a man.
You do know that is wrong, don't you? |
not even close to how wrong your spelling is sgt. retardo |
LOL sgt retardo
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Nahualli
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:24 Post subject:
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| Kbarr wrote: | You where with a man.
You do know that is wrong, don't you? |
No, sorry I don't. I know you don't agree with it but I don't think it's wrong.
-Nah-
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:25 Post subject:
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| atarom wrote: | | themy wrote: | | Kbarr wrote: | You where with a man.
You do know that is wrong, don't you? |
not even close to how wrong your spelling is sgt. retardo |
LOL sgt retardo |
Wow, I made a spelling mistake.
And you found it, forcing you to comment.
What is worse?
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Aluaeia
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:26 Post subject:
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I'm sorry Nahoo, I don't really know what to say, but it always sucks when a long term relationship ends, unless the relationship involved abuse anyways.
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Paco
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:28 Post subject:
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well, that's a bummer
i won't even try to make fun of the situation
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Owyyn
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:28 Post subject:
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Sorry to hear that /Vah. 
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:29 Post subject:
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| Nahualli wrote: | | Kbarr wrote: | You where with a man.
You do know that is wrong, don't you? |
No, sorry I don't. I know you don't agree with it but I don't think it's wrong.
-Jesus!- |
Wrong in the larger sense.
You know what I mean.
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Nahualli
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:39 Post subject:
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WTS slightly used lvl 26 Mexican Punk account. Decent gear, has some plat but bank is mostly stripped, comes with 3 pets, some AAs.
PST with offers, NO TRADES.
-Nah-
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Paco
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:40 Post subject:
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| Nahualli wrote: | WTS slightly used lvl 26 Mexican Punk account. Decent gear, has some plat but bank is mostly stripped, comes with 3 pets, some AAs.
PST with offers, NO TRADES.
-Jesus!- |
lol, awesome
but sorry, you con green to me
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Nahualli
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:45 Post subject:
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| Paco wrote: | | sorry, you con green to me |
dang..
I still put out decent dps
-Nah-
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Tamena
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:47 Post subject:
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| Nahualli wrote: | WTS slightly used lvl 26 Mexican Punk account. Decent gear, has some plat but bank is mostly stripped, comes with 3 pets, some AAs.
PST with offers, NO TRADES.
-Jesus!- |
do ya do windows tho? and Vaccume!! I hate vaccuming!
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sinrakin
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 14:48 Post subject:
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| Nahualli wrote: | | Paco wrote: | | sorry, you con green to me |
dang..
I still put out decent dps
-Jesus!- |
hehe, I hope you're not going to post the stats on your weapon 
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Nictathan
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 15:00 Post subject:
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| Nahualli wrote: | WTS slightly used lvl 26 Mexican Punk account. Decent gear, has some plat but bank is mostly stripped, comes with 3 pets, some AAs.
PST with offers, NO TRADES.
-Jesus!- |
Dammit, I wanted to trade something for it
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Obmar
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Posted: 08/04/04 - 15:01 Post subject:
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| Nahualli wrote: | | kemble wrote: | Dude, now you are free to go to the San Francisco Jacks. No poppers allowed tho.
Seriously tho, what caused it? |
You ready for this?
Family.
I want one, he doesn't. It's about as simple as it can be but there's absolutely no room to compromise on it.
-Jesus!- |
Yeah that sucks - fundamental things like that aren't probably ever going to change. Sorry that sucks
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