Relationship question!
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Okay, here's the situation:
My girlfriend makes more money than me. Both get paid well.
I work fewer hours, I'm a teacher and work from 8am-1pm.
My girlfriend thinks because I work fewer hours, I should do more of the house work.
We split the bills 50/50, regardless of the salary gap.
I think the chores, like the bills, should be 50/50.
Now, if she paid a majority of the bills, or greater portion, I could see me doing more of the chores, but since time=money, I think that my free time is mine to do with as I please...
Thoughts?
Oh, and for those who are going to flame me for making less money than a girl, I could care less what you think.
My girlfriend makes more money than me. Both get paid well.
I work fewer hours, I'm a teacher and work from 8am-1pm.
My girlfriend thinks because I work fewer hours, I should do more of the house work.
We split the bills 50/50, regardless of the salary gap.
I think the chores, like the bills, should be 50/50.
Now, if she paid a majority of the bills, or greater portion, I could see me doing more of the chores, but since time=money, I think that my free time is mine to do with as I please...
Thoughts?
Oh, and for those who are going to flame me for making less money than a girl, I could care less what you think.
who owns the house? apartment or house? are you lazy?
if you lived alone how much would you do around your house?
if you lived alone how much would you do around your house?
housework = womans work.
who kills spiders/fixes broken shit/lifts heavy stuff around the house?
who kills spiders/fixes broken shit/lifts heavy stuff around the house?
Am I lazy? No, I just hate doing housework. I'm not saying I won't do 50%, I'm saying I won't do more than my fair share.
Who owns the house? She does. However, I own my own place, and I rent it out, from which, she gets 50% of the proceeds... that's my "rent" as it were.
I fix and drill stuff when it needs to be done, to answer kireol's question
Who owns the house? She does. However, I own my own place, and I rent it out, from which, she gets 50% of the proceeds... that's my "rent" as it were.
I fix and drill stuff when it needs to be done, to answer kireol's question
Relationships aren't about this is mine, that is yours, theyre about this is ours, lets work as a team, and do for eachother.
If your lazy a*s is at home all day doing nothing, and she's at work all day bustin her a*s, the last thing she needs is to come home to a messy house, seeing you in your boxers watching oprah, talking some shit like....I did half the dishes, the rest are for you.
My g/f would kick my a*s if I pulled some shit like that =p
bottom line...teamwork....if you worked 10 hour days, and she worked 4 hour days, I doubt she'd have a sink full of dishes and a load of laundry waiting on you to get home to do.
men are just f****n lazy when it comes to housework, including myself, I get bitched out all the time for being lazy as hell =D
If your lazy a*s is at home all day doing nothing, and she's at work all day bustin her a*s, the last thing she needs is to come home to a messy house, seeing you in your boxers watching oprah, talking some shit like....I did half the dishes, the rest are for you.
My g/f would kick my a*s if I pulled some shit like that =p
bottom line...teamwork....if you worked 10 hour days, and she worked 4 hour days, I doubt she'd have a sink full of dishes and a load of laundry waiting on you to get home to do.
men are just f****n lazy when it comes to housework, including myself, I get bitched out all the time for being lazy as hell =D
Khrath,
No, I'm not talking about the laundry (we each do our own) or the dishes, I do general tidying every day (putting the dishes away, in the dishwasher, etc).
I'm talking about scrubbing the toilets etc. The stuff that doesn't need to be done until the weekend.
Oh, I also said "lets pay for a maid, 50/50" her response was "no, we can do the cleaning".
Does that change things?
No, I'm not talking about the laundry (we each do our own) or the dishes, I do general tidying every day (putting the dishes away, in the dishwasher, etc).
I'm talking about scrubbing the toilets etc. The stuff that doesn't need to be done until the weekend.
Oh, I also said "lets pay for a maid, 50/50" her response was "no, we can do the cleaning".
Does that change things?
Dude, thats horrible.
My g/f does all the laundry, most of the dishes, vaccums, lol, come to think of it, i'm lazier than you ^^
My g/f does all the laundry, most of the dishes, vaccums, lol, come to think of it, i'm lazier than you ^^
Interesting situation. She has more money, you have more time. She wants you to spend more time, she is unwilling to spend more money.
So you're unwilling to spend what you have (relatively) more of, and so is she.
Sounds like a good match!
So you're unwilling to spend what you have (relatively) more of, and so is she.
Sounds like a good match!
I hope she gives you 50% sex from now on.
that'd mean she'd get 50% less sex 
yah, start giving her 50% of the c**k, see how long she goes for that
then be like...fine u want 100% of the c**k, you do 100% of that nasty toilet you skanky w***e, now take this d**k and like it u b***h
then be like...fine u want 100% of the c**k, you do 100% of that nasty toilet you skanky w***e, now take this d**k and like it u b***h
I hate housework. From the time I was 23, I had a housekeeper in twice a week. Mind you, I was also working for my ex anywhere from 40-60 hours a week, sometimes Saturdays. The LAST thing I wanted to do with my free time was housework. I did laundry and occasional vacuuming or dusting if extra was needed, but that was it.
When I got divorced, some 20 years or so later, my housekeeper came with me, and charged me just half of what she used to, to do my apartment. It was a nice gesture on her part.
Now, Ezzan and I share the cleaning but he does more of it than I do--he does the floors and the bathrooms, sometimes the kitchen, and the vacuuming. (I'd vacuum but the one we have weighs a ton-when we get a new one, I'll do it then). I dust and polish all the "stuff" that is displayed, pick up any clutter (even his), do the laundry, etc.
We both work full time but he doesn't mind cleaning...and I STILL hate it. Can't have a housekeeper tho cause he sleeps days /sigh...
When I got divorced, some 20 years or so later, my housekeeper came with me, and charged me just half of what she used to, to do my apartment. It was a nice gesture on her part.
Now, Ezzan and I share the cleaning but he does more of it than I do--he does the floors and the bathrooms, sometimes the kitchen, and the vacuuming. (I'd vacuum but the one we have weighs a ton-when we get a new one, I'll do it then). I dust and polish all the "stuff" that is displayed, pick up any clutter (even his), do the laundry, etc.
We both work full time but he doesn't mind cleaning...and I STILL hate it. Can't have a housekeeper tho cause he sleeps days /sigh...
Pop that b***h in and then when she asks "Did you f*****g clean the toilet?" You can say yes and not be lying.
and http://www.irobot.com/ for your vacuuming and floor washing needs!
Make sure she gets her shit done though!
Thanks princ. however, that doesn't help me
Am I wrong thinking if everything else is equal, shouldn't the housework be equal too?
Am I wrong thinking if everything else is equal, shouldn't the housework be equal too?
| Zrazzt wrote: |
Thanks princ. however, that doesn't help me Am I wrong thinking if everything else is equal, shouldn't the housework be equal too? |
But everything isn't equal. Your work hours aren't equal. Your money is not equal. You just want the s****y stuff to be equal. You know I <3 u ZZZ and I mean no offence by the following but...... You are the woman in this relationship it is your job to cook and clean. The only solution to this is to knock her up wait 6-7 years and then have kids do that shit for you.
Reviewing this in my head yah its b******t.
If she wants you to do more house work then she should pay more bills. You take less money to have more free time. She takes more money to have less free time. She can't play the "I work hard to support us I should atleast come home to a clean house" card if she isn't actually chipping in more money.
PS
You're still the woman, and that makes me hot.
If she wants you to do more house work then she should pay more bills. You take less money to have more free time. She takes more money to have less free time. She can't play the "I work hard to support us I should atleast come home to a clean house" card if she isn't actually chipping in more money.
PS
You're still the woman, and that makes me hot.
Zimzulu:
Hey man,
But things ARE equal in everything else
Bills: 50/50
Rent: 50/50
Dinners/Drinks: 50/50
Groceries: 50/50
Her personal bank account is hers, and mine is mine.
If I wanted a new high tech TV, I'd have to pay for it, if she wanted flowers for the house, she would pay for it.
So why shouldn't the cleaning be equal?
Hey man,
But things ARE equal in everything else
Bills: 50/50
Rent: 50/50
Dinners/Drinks: 50/50
Groceries: 50/50
Her personal bank account is hers, and mine is mine.
If I wanted a new high tech TV, I'd have to pay for it, if she wanted flowers for the house, she would pay for it.
So why shouldn't the cleaning be equal?
i'm in the same situation... but we still do 50/50 on chores but we chose which we do like she does laundry and i do dishes... but dishes are about all you'll see me doing lolz
| Zrazzt wrote: |
Zimzulu: Hey man, But things ARE equal in everything else Bills: 50/50 Rent: 50/50 Dinners/Drinks: 50/50 Groceries: 50/50 Her personal bank account is hers, and mine is mine. If I wanted a new high tech TV, I'd have to pay for it, if she wanted flowers for the house, she would pay for it. So why shouldn't the cleaning be equal? |
that doesn't sound like a relationship though, that sounds like a roomate you happen to f**k at night
Relationships are compromise, as s****y as that is.
Dude, stop being a lazy f**k. So you put in an extra hour a day, so thats what a whole 6 hour sof work you do in a day, WOW! God I wish could work 6 hours a day, I work 9 hours having to open and close the office. Yesterday I went home two hours earily since I wasn't feeling well but instead of going to bed I did a little more house work cause I came home earily.
You keep this shit up and I doubt she will stay with you all that much longer and that will be the reason why, cause in the back of her mind she will think your a lazy b*****d.
Oh and as for you giving her 50% of the c**k, I am pretty sure liek any girl she can find some guy in a bar and get the other 50% of the d**k and still be happy!
LOL
You keep this shit up and I doubt she will stay with you all that much longer and that will be the reason why, cause in the back of her mind she will think your a lazy b*****d.
Oh and as for you giving her 50% of the c**k, I am pretty sure liek any girl she can find some guy in a bar and get the other 50% of the d**k and still be happy!
LOL
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