Question

Me and my g/f of 9 months broke up yesterday. I love the girl so much, and I had to tell her we couldnt date. Long story short, and your going to call me a loser, its cool, but...

She moved a few months back, and we stayed together. Everything was fine, until some people started asking her how she knew I was the one. She began wondering, decided she needed to date some other people, but wanted to stay with me as well. Hardest thing I have ever done was tell her that was a bad idea, and to call me when she realizes there is no one better than me, until than we shouldnt talk. It was like opening up my own chest and crushing my heart in a vice...

so my Question is, whats the best way to get past this? She could need a long time to decide, and there is no way I'm going to wait a year... I mean, if she calls me in a year and is like "I decided you are it" I would get back with her, especially since I'm going to college an hour from her house, but for the interum what do I do?

Really sad to hear that man. This may seem like such a cliche' and male-typical but try dating. The hardest part of the loss is no longer feeling wanted, and it's male instinct to need-to-feel wanted. It's best to let her go now and decide what she wants before you get too (perverbial) attached.


And remember.. It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.



Good luck bro, I wish you the best.

theres no better cure for a break up, than f*****g a really hot chic

if your really bummed, f**k 2!

err, you're going to college next year or I guess are in college now, you're really young... I'm gonna guess this is your 1st really serious relationship, which is always the hardest to tear away from. I'd write you an essay but a) you probably wouldn't read it, b) I have 2 friends of mine going through something similar right now and have given this speech one too many times... anyway, you should def. be trying to see other people even though you don't want to... maybe not right away but don't feel so attached to her. See the hardest thing about taking anyones good advice is it's not the good advice you want to hear, trust me I know... you don't want to hear people telling you to move on and forget about her and don't let this situation get to you so badly, and also it's not that easy.

"It doesn't take much to keep holding someones hand, you have to keep your eyes open as wide as you can... you never know what could come along... sometimes people think that they are so in love, when it's the first person that they have ever been with, I think it's so stupid, so stupid"

-NFG (Don't gimme crap about the band it's still good advice =P)

It's hard to let go of your first "love" but that doesn't mean it's always the wrong thing to do, and being as young as you are, and I'm assuming your gf is even younger than you from the college near her house thing, you're both still going to be changing a lot as people and chances are you'll grow out of eachother eventually, whether you want to now or not. I could tell you a million times to try not to let this get to you, to move on for now and live your own life and let her live hers, but you'd never be able to listen to me. Only time will heal something like this, but don't let her hurt you because if you keep holding onto something that might not be there that's all that will happen.

Anyway, if you want, PM me w/ your AIM screen name or something and I'll talk to you about this, I have some decent experience and I'm probably around your age so can relate to you well... I have people coming to me all the time for relationship advice I don't know why so this is something I'm kind of used to =P I'm going to be pretty blunt with you though, and some things I say might not be what you want to hear, but it'll make sense.

Good luck bro

stay with her but start getting with other girls on the side and make it obvious that you do it alot, who knows, maybe she'll get jealous and want you to herself again. Or if not... you got to do a bunch of chicks and still tax her on the side a few last times before you guys broke up.

What Majy said. Most of us have been through something like this, and those that made it out alright found someone else

Sounds absolutely evil sometimes, but it's quite likely you'll find somebody new who will make you completely forget about your past relationships.

Poon Season: Open!

I would like to see a woman's point of view on this one. Are there any non skanky mature women who have been in more than 1 and 1/2 relationships in there life available to comment?

If shes not sure...dump her.

Nothing like beeing with someone that dont know what the f**k they want.

I makes you go backward.

Also you are no second option, dont wait for her to have dated all those around her to come back to you.

Think about it...it sound slike : hmmm im not sure...so il ldate them all...*after a few dates* well guess that hes better then nothing for now...

it hurts but when you think about it..shes not worth the pain.

Another thing too: going back to someone you've previously broken up with isn't a great idea. The relationship is fubar and it'll never be the same again. It's already gone.

She lost interest in you.

Need anything else be said?

thanks guys, guess its time to "[]D[] /\/\ []D some hoes" or something...

on a happier note, I got high for the first time last night... that was quite an experience

you go from bad to worse, christ don't start that shit now. Drugs=stupid.

LOL

Honestly, just let her go man. If it's meant to be, it will be. You will never forget your first love. One thing my sister told me when I caught my first love f*****g another man has stayed with me. She said: "Think about how much you loved her, and then realize that you thought she WAS the ONE. Then realize that if she wasn't the one, when do finally meet her, think of how much more you will love that girl. It gets better bud. Don't go out and f**k other women. It doesn't help anything. You'll only start thinking of your ex and get depressed.

The only thing you can do is give it time. Don't go to a club. Don't go out drinking. Do things that get your mind off the situation, but don't do anything you guys did together. Play computer games, EQ for hours and hours. Go to work and work like you have NEVER worked before. Find a NICE girl that you can go out with and talk to, a friend. Someone that you won't want to f**k. A sister is a good idea. They always say the right things.

It gets better man.

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Honestly, just let her go man. If it's meant to be, it will be. You will never forget your first love. One thing my sister told me when I caught my first love f*****g another man has stayed with me. She said: "Think about how much you loved her, and then realize that you thought she WAS the ONE. Then realize that if she wasn't the one, when do finally meet her, think of how much more you will love that girl. It gets better bud. Don't go out and f**k other women. It doesn't help anything. You'll only start thinking of your ex and get depressed. The only thing you can do is give it time. Don't go to a club. Don't go out drinking. Do things that get your mind off the situation, but don't do anything you guys did together. Play computer games, EQ for hours and hours. Go to work and work like you have NEVER worked before. Find a NICE girl that you can go out with and talk to, a friend. Someone that you won't want to f**k. A sister is a good idea. They always say the right things. It gets better man.

yeah lets see, my life feels like SHIT because someone I loved left me, so to make it better I will SHUN a social life and become a complete vegetable and play frikin EQ all the time and LOOSE my job and any chance I have at rebuilding my life. --- ok sounds like good advice

But hey to each his own.

Ok I read it

You are a p***y whipped f*g

If someone loves you and cares about you, they take your feelings into account as much as they do their own, sometimes even moreso.

Find someone who isnt gonna go chasing d**k while she dangles you on a chain in holding a pattern like a little b***h, just because she is unsure of herself.

Getting that time off might be exactly what you need in a relationship. During my application I went back to Belgium for a couple months, and after a couple weeks I began to ask myself the same Question ...
Is changing my life, and missing out on things you do when you're 20 worth it, that? I missed him, was convinced I loved him ... but there were my friends, partiesto crash, people to meet... At that point I guess you make the decission what is most important to you.

We had a couple weeks we hardly called, he dated other people ... but when he visited me for a month, I knew he was it, and we decided to go on. Whatever you do, don't put a stop to your life ... give it a bit, make a suprise visit, and see what feelings it brings up =/

Don't wait around for her dude. Give her 2 weeks and after that say f**k it. You can't wait around 2 years looking over your shopulder and holding out some bit of hope for her.