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Uglarbashdemgud
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 Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:06 Post subject: Breaking the "Man Code" (NWS Pg 2)
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First off, I have a friend - he was my best friend all through growing up (Since 3rd grade)... His older sister used to babysit us when we were in like 4th grade... We did everything together, got drunk for the first time together etc.
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Recently his Sister starts msging me and sending me emails, we have talked for the last few months more than we have talked since highschool... We really connect because of the history we have together.
Well, one night both of us were slightly buzzed - we start sending rather explicit pictures back and forth, and I realize that my best friends sister is EXTREMELY hot, this on top of the fact that I have always loved her and would do anything for her.
So my question to the realpoorians, Being that I dont have any "Real" sisters (I have 4 half sisters, I wouldnt care if a friend hooked up with one of them).... How do you think my friend will react if we actually hooked up?
I doubt it will even happen.... just wondering, has it happened to any guys here (had a friend date their sister?)
Pics to come ^_^
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Jinu
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:08 Post subject:
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I guess it depends on the pics.
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Frashii
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:08 Post subject:
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If something is meant to happen, it will. Maybe check with your buddy first ? Or, at least give him a heads up.
Just remember, bros b4 h0s, unless she r0x!
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Jinu
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:08 Post subject:
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And to sound more intelligent, women go away but friends are forever 
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Sunkorzien
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:09 Post subject:
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lol uglar took pics of his c**k lol
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Uglarbashdemgud
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:16 Post subject:
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| Jinu wrote: | | And to sound more intelligent, women go away but friends are forever |
I agree Jinu, and if it was some random girl it wouldn't be any big deal, but I have been friends with her also for years....
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Uglarbashdemgud
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:16 Post subject:
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Sunkorzien
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:17 Post subject:
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| Uglarbashdemgud wrote: | |
Needs less clothing.
Also, she kinda looks like she's 45.
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Maelstrom
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:24 Post subject:
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Yeah well friendship wont make you get laid.
So s***w her brother and jump on her.
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Uglarbashdemgud
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:29 Post subject:
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| Sunkorzien wrote: |
Also, she kinda looks like she's 45. |
She is 31... *Shrug*
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compusmack
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:32 Post subject:
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Ask your friend how he'd feel about it.
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Uglarbashdemgud
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:38 Post subject:
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| compusmack wrote: | | Ask your friend how he'd feel about it. |
Before or after I hit it?
=D
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compusmack
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:39 Post subject:
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| Uglarbashdemgud wrote: | | compusmack wrote: | | Ask your friend how he'd feel about it. |
Before or after I hit it?
=D |
During.
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Aviger
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:40 Post subject:
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Uggy, i dated one of my friends sister (not my "best" friend but still a good one) for 8 months.
I'd carefully scope out the guy before you go further. ask him directly or covertly how he would feel about someone dating his sister. If he has no problem with it..your in.
If he does have a problem with it, talk to him.
If he still has a problem with it...well it's up to you really if you want to risk your friendship or go with the lady )
Gluck!
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Uglarbashdemgud
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:41 Post subject:
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| compusmack wrote: | | Uglarbashdemgud wrote: | | compusmack wrote: | | Ask your friend how he'd feel about it. |
Before or after I hit it?
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During. |
ROFL!
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themy
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:47 Post subject:
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well, i think the man code is only for the teenage years when guys really could care less about women and the friends are jsut protecting their sisters. i'm sure he'd agree to you guys getting it on if you told him how you feel now, or lie about wanting to see what happens for in the future you could see yourself with her or something hah.
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sinrakin
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:52 Post subject:
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Themy's got a point. I don't have a sister, but if I did I'd assume that by the time she was 30 she knew what she was doing and could make her own decisions. You could run it by him as an informational kind of thing so he's not surprised, like "hey, I've been talking with your sister and it turns out we really get along, so I'm probably going to ask her out. I assume that's cool, right?"
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Uglarbashdemgud
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:56 Post subject:
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"Dude your sister has nice tits, I wanna play with them"
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median
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 15:58 Post subject:
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Well, I am in the same position uglar, my best friend is dating my sister
and I see him as my sisters boyfriends now, not my best friend.
it changes everything
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Occulis
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 16:29 Post subject:
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I have to disagree with the disingenuous statement of "bro's before hoes." I have yet to meet a male who truly places his friends ahead of his girlfriend or wife. They talk a good game, but when it comes down to a choice between friendship and women - the women win.
"Hey man, you wanna go shoot some pool?"
"Sorry man, girlfriend wants to watch Home Decorating tonight."
"Oh. I thought you hated that show?"
"Yeah... well..."
Insert the bros-before-hoes comment at that point of the conversation and see if you get an earful of shit.
The only time bros-before-hoes attitude rings true is when there is no challenge, no choice, and no hurt feelings to be had. Like, say, the girlfriend is out of town and your friends happen to invite you out at the same time.
I put my friends 2nd place to my gf (or prospective gf) because, in the end, it is going to be your wife who sits on your sickbed feeding you chicken soup when you're 90. Your friends will be glad to chat with you online when you're sick, though.
There's also the other extreme - where you disrespect your S.O. because you think you are somehow "keeping it real" by getting drunk with your friends instead of spending time with your girlfriend.
But that kind of shit happens when you have relationships you don't care about either way. If you have a good friendship w/ your buds and a good relationship w/ your lady then this kind of issue is almost never present anyway. Unless 1 of the 2 is an attention w***e. Like me.
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median
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 16:32 Post subject:
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| Occulis wrote: | I have to disagree with the disingenuous statement of "bro's before hoes." I have yet to meet a male who truly places his friends ahead of his girlfriend or wife. They talk a good game, but when it comes down to a choice between friendship and women - the women win.
"Hey man, you wanna go shoot some pool?"
"Sorry man, girlfriend wants to watch Home Decorating tonight."
"Oh. I thought you hated that show?"
"Yeah... well..."
Insert the bros-before-hoes comment at that point of the conversation and see if you get an earful of shit.
The only time bros-before-hoes attitude rings true is when there is no challenge, no choice, and no hurt feelings to be had. Like, say, the girlfriend is out of town and your friends happen to invite you out at the same time.
I put my friends 2nd place to my gf (or prospective gf) because, in the end, it is going to be your wife who sits on your sickbed feeding you chicken soup when you're 90. Your friends will be glad to chat with you online when you're sick, though.
There's also the other extreme - where you disrespect your S.O. because you think you are somehow "keeping it real" by getting drunk with your friends instead of spending time with your girlfriend.
But that kind of shit happens when you have relationships you don't care about either way. If you have a good friendship w/ your buds and a good relationship w/ your lady then this kind of issue is almost never present anyway. Unless 1 of the 2 is an attention w***e. Like me. |
do you have a younger sister?
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Occulis
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 16:36 Post subject:
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Way to quote 500 lines with a 1-line reply. :p
Yes, I do. 1 of my best friends dated her for a few years. Was a s****y relationship, but that was between them. She was always attracting my friends, so I've seen this issue come up my whole life.
The only guys pursuing her I've ever run off were a rapist, a child f****r and a guy headed to jail in a couple weeks for stabbing. As far as stressing her out, stressing my friends out, etc., just because they like each other? What kind of f****d-up, selfish, c**k-blocking a*****e would do that?
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Goraz
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 16:40 Post subject:
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go for it uglar
at that age, bitter disputes between sister / brother shouldn't be questionable, well unless your friend is severly disturbed and has an infatuation with his sister..
=\
she is hot though, i'd rail it.
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Occulis
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 16:46 Post subject:
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your railgun wins but Guuar headshots u out of the sky
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compusmack
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 16:46 Post subject:
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| Occulis wrote: | I have to disagree with the disingenuous statement of "bro's before hoes." I have yet to meet a male who truly places his friends ahead of his girlfriend or wife. They talk a good game, but when it comes down to a choice between friendship and women - the women win.
"Hey man, you wanna go shoot some pool?"
"Sorry man, girlfriend wants to watch Home Decorating tonight."
"Oh. I thought you hated that show?"
"Yeah... well..."
Insert the bros-before-hoes comment at that point of the conversation and see if you get an earful of shit.
The only time bros-before-hoes attitude rings true is when there is no challenge, no choice, and no hurt feelings to be had. Like, say, the girlfriend is out of town and your friends happen to invite you out at the same time.
I put my friends 2nd place to my gf (or prospective gf) because, in the end, it is going to be your wife who sits on your sickbed feeding you chicken soup when you're 90. Your friends will be glad to chat with you online when you're sick, though.
There's also the other extreme - where you disrespect your S.O. because you think you are somehow "keeping it real" by getting drunk with your friends instead of spending time with your girlfriend.
But that kind of shit happens when you have relationships you don't care about either way. If you have a good friendship w/ your buds and a good relationship w/ your lady then this kind of issue is almost never present anyway. Unless 1 of the 2 is an attention w***e. Like me. |
You're arguing based on existing relationships as opposed to the idea of creating one with a friend's sister.
I think you are misunderstanding "bro's before hoes". It has nothing to do with disrespecting a significant other. It has to do with respecting friends and their comfort levels. For instance, if your friend is trying to hook up with a certain chick, and you notice her after you know his intention, you don't go after that chick because you respect your friend. The same goes for chasing ex-g/fs of close friends, it's about respect and comfort level. When it comes to close friends, i consider their feelings because i expect the same treatment when it comes to their actions.
I don't know what kinds of friends you have, but most of my friends (real friends, people i interact with regularly) wouldn't be cruising for ass from my sister (without my blessing) because they respect me. (read my other post about this for more reasons)
http://www.realpoor.com/viewtopic.php?p=303391&highlight=code#303391
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KapnKimchi
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 16:49 Post subject:
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If something goes awry between you, the girl or your friend, you will lose both. Is it worth the risk?
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icebreaker
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 16:52 Post subject:
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if your sincerly into her as a person and a potential relationship I see no problem with it, but talk to him if you two are close.
if you just want a f**k, don't do it. or if you do, expect to turn around and see the end of a baseball bat heading straight at your face..when you wake up from the coma remember...you deserved it.
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Mogling
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 16:56 Post subject:
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| compusmack wrote: | | Occulis wrote: | I have to disagree with the disingenuous statement of "bro's before hoes." I have yet to meet a male who truly places his friends ahead of his girlfriend or wife. They talk a good game, but when it comes down to a choice between friendship and women - the women win.
"Hey man, you wanna go shoot some pool?"
"Sorry man, girlfriend wants to watch Home Decorating tonight."
"Oh. I thought you hated that show?"
"Yeah... well..."
Insert the bros-before-hoes comment at that point of the conversation and see if you get an earful of shit.
The only time bros-before-hoes attitude rings true is when there is no challenge, no choice, and no hurt feelings to be had. Like, say, the girlfriend is out of town and your friends happen to invite you out at the same time.
I put my friends 2nd place to my gf (or prospective gf) because, in the end, it is going to be your wife who sits on your sickbed feeding you chicken soup when you're 90. Your friends will be glad to chat with you online when you're sick, though.
There's also the other extreme - where you disrespect your S.O. because you think you are somehow "keeping it real" by getting drunk with your friends instead of spending time with your girlfriend.
But that kind of shit happens when you have relationships you don't care about either way. If you have a good friendship w/ your buds and a good relationship w/ your lady then this kind of issue is almost never present anyway. Unless 1 of the 2 is an attention w***e. Like me. |
You're arguing based on existing relationships as opposed to the idea of creating one with a friend's sister.
I think you are misunderstanding "bro's before hoes". It has nothing to do with disrespecting a significant other. It has to do with respecting friends and their comfort levels. For instance, if your friend is trying to hook up with a certain chick, and you notice her after you know his intention, you don't go after that chick because you respect your friend. The same goes for chasing ex-g/fs of close friends, it's about respect and comfort level. When it comes to close friends, i consider their feelings because i expect the same treatment when it comes to their actions.
I don't know what kinds of friends you have, but most of my friends (real friends, people i interact with regularly) wouldn't be cruising for ass from my sister (without my blessing) because they respect me. (read my other post about this for more reasons)
http://www.realpoor.com/viewtopic.php?p=303391&highlight=code#303391 |
Kinda like in better off dead when every one asks the guy if they can date his ex
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Tamena
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 17:17 Post subject:
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I'd ask the friend if he'd have issues with it, but if you've been friends forever like ya said he may be all for it. With you he knows what his sister is getting into, the only problem I see is if ya break up...then what?
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Tamrissa
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Posted: 03/02/04 - 17:20 Post subject:
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bingo tam.
but being that they are adults and not children in highschool or that type mentallity i have a feeling that if things didnt work out between them it wouldnt effect uggys friendship with his buddy any.
uggy, my advice.... for what its worth...
dont get into unless you are trying to make something go, if its a booty call ya can get ass from anywhere, if its a relationship in the making your looking for... ask the friend first.
gluck hun.
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